“I often feel—abruptly and painfully —that I am the wife in a heterosexual relationship, something I did not bargain for as a queer-identified person,” says Bolus. “Sometimes, it is challenging to accept all the implications of spending the rest of my life with a man. I have also felt some pain when I have gone out into the world with Marty, and we haven’t been recognized as queer, either by other gay or lesbian folks or even by straight people. I feel a lot of pride in being gay. I like being queer and visible and I miss that.”

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